Love the intimacy of hearing your voice, Vanessa! Felt like a direct conversation.
I agree - when I learned to recognize my own truth and to express it, it was/is life-changing - and I've made a calling out of freeing others to do the same for themselves.
I have found the setting to be important as well - Instagram doesn't feel like a safe enough space to share my truth - not because I'm ashamed of anything, but that my truth is intimate to me and I want to choose who has access to it.
My truth is also not a permanent stance, so whenever there is a permanent record - like on social media or email newsletters, or even zoom recordings, I get a little concerned. This is how I feel right now, in this moment, tomorrow may bring a different view.
Wow that's such a good question Patty. Definitely something I've thought about too. I think part of what has gotten me comfortable has been to approach this as intentionally unpolished. It is not a complete, polished record of my TRUTH in this moment. It's just an unscripted sharing of what's on my mind. It's a moment in time. I reserve the right to learn and grow and change my mind. It's just a sliver of who I am, a glimpse. Maybe, like with a friendship you can put all the glimpses together to start to know the whole me, but I am a multidimensional woman with so many aspects. My truth is never fully complete or static.
I LOVE this. I feel like I'm curled up on a makeshift bed at a slumber party. It's like 3 am in the morning and none of us can sleep. I have deep reverence for deep revelations. If it feels scary and true - I'm all IN!💜 This feels so like YOU. Thank you my sister for bringing it.🙏🏾💫
Loved listening to this. Appreciate how much you value and represent the important *practice* of speaking what's true to you - like the woman who ran into you shared - it normalizes so much realness that we don't always see (or hear) for so many!
First, thank you for sharing this picture. It's adorable! Second, wow...serious food for thought. I have actually been thinking about this a lot lately and how, any time I have experimented with letting my raw reaction/emotion show, I have been batted down and so I've learned not to show it outwardly. I thought it was just me, but hearing your voicenote is making me wonder how much of it is a generational thing, aka a product of how our generation was raised. 🤔
Oh wow I love that this voicenote elicited such a thoughtful response. I agree it is so interesting to see how our upbringing and what we were taught as a generation manifests itself.
I so resonate with the adapted child reference as a Gen X woman - I also had loving family, but both of my parents worked, and I had the responsibility to lock up the house and walk to school - then hung out at home after school (I got to watch Luke and Laura get married on tv though:). Then in high school I went off to boarding school and was one of the only students who was given the most lenient "off campus" privileges - so I explored after school a lot (we right next to the University, so I'd meander through the college classrooms in the liberal arts school, and smoke on the side of the buildings pretending to be a cool college kid when I was really just a high schooler from next door).
I noticed when I became a mother I actually was a bit more strict - worried more about them being on their own, concerned they'd hate me later if my ambitious career interfered with their social and school lives.
I love hearing your voice and your storytelling helps me realize - I've never been alone in those thoughts. Can't wait for the next voicenote.
Love the intimacy of hearing your voice, Vanessa! Felt like a direct conversation.
I agree - when I learned to recognize my own truth and to express it, it was/is life-changing - and I've made a calling out of freeing others to do the same for themselves.
I have found the setting to be important as well - Instagram doesn't feel like a safe enough space to share my truth - not because I'm ashamed of anything, but that my truth is intimate to me and I want to choose who has access to it.
My truth is also not a permanent stance, so whenever there is a permanent record - like on social media or email newsletters, or even zoom recordings, I get a little concerned. This is how I feel right now, in this moment, tomorrow may bring a different view.
How do you navigate this?
Wow that's such a good question Patty. Definitely something I've thought about too. I think part of what has gotten me comfortable has been to approach this as intentionally unpolished. It is not a complete, polished record of my TRUTH in this moment. It's just an unscripted sharing of what's on my mind. It's a moment in time. I reserve the right to learn and grow and change my mind. It's just a sliver of who I am, a glimpse. Maybe, like with a friendship you can put all the glimpses together to start to know the whole me, but I am a multidimensional woman with so many aspects. My truth is never fully complete or static.
I LOVE this. I feel like I'm curled up on a makeshift bed at a slumber party. It's like 3 am in the morning and none of us can sleep. I have deep reverence for deep revelations. If it feels scary and true - I'm all IN!💜 This feels so like YOU. Thank you my sister for bringing it.🙏🏾💫
Let’s have a slumber party and hang out and talk about ALL the things one day please! Preferably at 9pm though not 3am!!!
Loved listening to this. Appreciate how much you value and represent the important *practice* of speaking what's true to you - like the woman who ran into you shared - it normalizes so much realness that we don't always see (or hear) for so many!
Thanks so much for the encouragement Amanda! I have realized I don't have a choice but to share out loud - it's my medicine!
Love listening to you Vanessa :)
Awwww thanks so much Liz!!! Hope I get to see you soon!
First, thank you for sharing this picture. It's adorable! Second, wow...serious food for thought. I have actually been thinking about this a lot lately and how, any time I have experimented with letting my raw reaction/emotion show, I have been batted down and so I've learned not to show it outwardly. I thought it was just me, but hearing your voicenote is making me wonder how much of it is a generational thing, aka a product of how our generation was raised. 🤔
Oh wow I love that this voicenote elicited such a thoughtful response. I agree it is so interesting to see how our upbringing and what we were taught as a generation manifests itself.
Love this Vanessa! 💗💗
Thank you Sabrina!
Dear Vanessa, loved to receive your voice note today! I was surprised not to see you. Parenting is such a big topic, loved to hear your point of view.
Thank you so much Emilie! It is so nice to hear from you! I hope you enjoy these voicenotes!!
I so resonate with the adapted child reference as a Gen X woman - I also had loving family, but both of my parents worked, and I had the responsibility to lock up the house and walk to school - then hung out at home after school (I got to watch Luke and Laura get married on tv though:). Then in high school I went off to boarding school and was one of the only students who was given the most lenient "off campus" privileges - so I explored after school a lot (we right next to the University, so I'd meander through the college classrooms in the liberal arts school, and smoke on the side of the buildings pretending to be a cool college kid when I was really just a high schooler from next door).
I noticed when I became a mother I actually was a bit more strict - worried more about them being on their own, concerned they'd hate me later if my ambitious career interfered with their social and school lives.
I love hearing your voice and your storytelling helps me realize - I've never been alone in those thoughts. Can't wait for the next voicenote.