Important share! Especially as I get ready for a flight tomorrow - the arm rest comment really resonated... and getting curious about the part of myself that would let someone else use the arm rest, even if I wanted it!
I noticed in those first few moments of sitting how I felt like I had to (or decided to) "claim" the armrest. We also shared the armrest at times too... Certainly was interesting to think about overall!
I’m not sure whether you are asking because you would prefer I speak faster? If so - feel free to speed it up. I think there is that option. But this is the pace at which I speak. 🤷♀️
Thought provoking. Crowded spaces in general evoke a lot more anxious self awareness behaviors in me. I would say I tend to defer space to others likely too easily, maybe because I prefer more personal space
as an introvert? Reminded me of a wonderful text book by Sociologist Virginia Satir, called “People Making”. “The Pleaser” was the stereotype she described to “give it all away” to ensure the comfort of others despite our rights, as you describe. ✌️❤️
Important share! Especially as I get ready for a flight tomorrow - the arm rest comment really resonated... and getting curious about the part of myself that would let someone else use the arm rest, even if I wanted it!
How did it go?? - did you claim your armrest? Dying to know. xoxo
I noticed in those first few moments of sitting how I felt like I had to (or decided to) "claim" the armrest. We also shared the armrest at times too... Certainly was interesting to think about overall!
Can u speak any faster??!!
I’m not sure whether you are asking because you would prefer I speak faster? If so - feel free to speed it up. I think there is that option. But this is the pace at which I speak. 🤷♀️
So good to know I’m not the one that goes through that. I’ll remember this next time I’m in that situation.
You are so not alone!! Thanks for responding and please share your experience when/if this happens to you in the future!
Im listening
Thought provoking. Crowded spaces in general evoke a lot more anxious self awareness behaviors in me. I would say I tend to defer space to others likely too easily, maybe because I prefer more personal space
as an introvert? Reminded me of a wonderful text book by Sociologist Virginia Satir, called “People Making”. “The Pleaser” was the stereotype she described to “give it all away” to ensure the comfort of others despite our rights, as you describe. ✌️❤️
Super interesting as I'm also an introvert.
YES. Thank you for naming this. Happens to me all the time on the subway!
claim your space!
Thanks for sharing! I will claim my space respectfully next time. I tend to make myself smaller in those situations. This note helps!